Episode Transcript
[00:00:01] Speaker A: Good morning.
[00:00:02] Speaker B: Good morning.
[00:00:03] Speaker A: How are you?
[00:00:03] Speaker B: Good morning. First.
[00:00:04] Speaker A: I know because you're always so bossy and sneaking in, and it was my turn.
[00:00:09] Speaker B: I know. I'm gonna watch that today.
[00:00:11] Speaker A: Of course you are. Because I'm like, I'm gonna lay down the law.
[00:00:15] Speaker B: I know. And then I'm already picking at myself because my hair is crazy. But anyway, thanks for saying good morning, friends.
[00:00:21] Speaker A: You're welcome.
[00:00:22] Speaker B: And I'll. I'll try my best to reel it in, but you've already started with some really, really funny stories. So I'm going to ask you maybe to tell the people out there listening to us today about the new cat.
[00:00:38] Speaker A: Oh, yeah. So there's a new cat on the farm. My parents have got a farm and. And they lost their cat a few months ago, and there's been another cat that's been up at the barn, and my dad's been taking it scraps of food every day just to try to get a little bit close to it. Weather that we had this past week, the cats followed the cows to the house. And we've been laughing at the cat. The cat thinks it's a cow.
And I said, so does the cat say meow or does the cat say meow?
[00:01:18] Speaker B: And they're laughing. We actually used a button on our. On our little board, too. So for Moo. Is that going to be its name, too?
[00:01:27] Speaker A: No, it's. It's really funny because the two cats they had prior were. Were gray, Big tail and little tail. They were brothers.
My dad names everything.
[00:01:36] Speaker B: So original.
[00:01:37] Speaker A: He's very original.
[00:01:39] Speaker B: But, you know, he names it by identifying characteristics.
[00:01:42] Speaker A: Identifying characteristics.
[00:01:43] Speaker B: Really smart. Well, that's the farmer in him.
[00:01:45] Speaker A: Yeah. So we had Big tail and little tail, and both of those have passed. And now we've got this other gray one that's come along, and it looks just like Big tail and Little tail, except that it's a little female. So maybe she's gonna be Baby Girl Gray. I don't know. Name the cats. If you're listening today, maybe I can find a picture of the cat, get it posted, and you can name the cat. But I'm really liking Baby Girl Gray.
[00:02:12] Speaker B: I like that, too. And so, because we're still learning technology, every time that we make a recording, these are like our practice recordings, basically kind of how I think of it, even though we're putting it out there for people to listen, because we want feedback too. And we think in every conversation there's things to learn, so it's good for us to put it out There. It's good for us to learn how to take constructive criticism. And then also because we're biased and think that we have a really awesome show and really awesome things to talk about, like, moo.
[00:02:45] Speaker A: Have an awesome show about who.
[00:02:50] Speaker B: Who now or who else.
[00:02:55] Speaker A: Remind me to tell you about him separating the cattle last night. Now, that was really funny.
[00:02:59] Speaker B: Oh, let's go ahead and hear it. I think two stories to start out. This. This kind of a short show, which we say that it's a short show, but we can make it long.
[00:03:08] Speaker A: So yesterday, dad moved all of the cattle, and he had to start mood.
[00:03:13] Speaker B: All the cattle or move.
[00:03:15] Speaker A: He moved them. And now late into the night, they were mo.
They were balling all night long. I guess the calves had to be separated for the mothers. I think it's a weaning period or something. I don't know, y'all. I was raised on a farm. I know nothing about a farm.
So anyway, yeah, he separated them, and I never noticed how loud they ball. I mean, they were at the top of their lungs. You could hear them inside the house bawling for each other. I mean, that's.
[00:03:48] Speaker B: Is that what they really call it? Balling?
[00:03:50] Speaker A: Yes, it's really. I think that's what they really call. Or bellering. Balling, something like that. I mean, it was. It was not moving.
[00:03:56] Speaker B: Oh, any farmers out there, you can feel free to just chime in and tell us what that actually is. But because bawling makes me think of, like, you know, like balling, or we're balling, or they were.
[00:04:09] Speaker A: They were balling, you know.
[00:04:10] Speaker B: No, no, but I'm thinking about bawling, like. But I can't even think of the definition. Anyway, let's go back in.
So they were crying, but I'm still confused. Was it the adults or the baby?
[00:04:24] Speaker A: I would say probably the babies being separated from. From that, but I don't know. It was dark outside, but I could. I could have. I could have found them. There was a. There was a game of Marco Polo going on out there. And I could have found the cattle.
[00:04:37] Speaker B: So nice.
[00:04:38] Speaker A: But I didn't go looking for them. I went to bed. All right, let's keep going.
[00:04:42] Speaker B: Okay. On that note, we have a lot more keys than that, but that's the one that we're going to use. That's right. Yeah. Feel free to hit it anytime, Sherry.
[00:04:51] Speaker A: Okay.
[00:04:52] Speaker B: So what are we talking about here today? Oh, I know.
So today we are nearing the end of February, and we thought we would do something a little bit More structured in March.
And we. We're going to call it.
Do you remember?
[00:05:11] Speaker A: Yes. March for myself.
[00:05:13] Speaker B: March for Myself. And so in March, we will be recording podcast on Tuesdays, which is the day we shoot for all the time. We don't always hit that, but we are going to try to record on every Tuesday of March. And we've laid out some really wonderful discussions, I think, to help people pour into themselves. So we're kind of thinking of this, like, spring, starting in spring and pouring in all the nutrition that you need before you hit April and May and the rest of your year. And you need to pour that out into others, whether that's your team, your friends, your family, or your business. Right. So we're kind of thinking that March will be focus on myself. So March is for myself. Months.
You like it, Sherry?
[00:06:08] Speaker A: I like it. I like it. April showers, May flowers. So let's back her up to March. And it's be planted and fertilized and.
[00:06:15] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:06:16] Speaker A: Have to go through a little bit of a dormant stage.
[00:06:18] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:06:19] Speaker A: Really establish roots and stuff like that. So.
[00:06:21] Speaker B: Yeah, I just read a thing on dormancy, and I thought it was very interesting, and it was the Chinese bamboo.
I'm probably going to get this wrong, and I have no notes in front of me, but when you plant a Chinese bamboo, the first year, it doesn't come up.
[00:06:41] Speaker A: I think it's several years.
[00:06:42] Speaker B: The second year, it doesn't come up. The third year, it doesn't come up. But you just keep watering and nourishing.
And I. I want to say it's something like the fifth year that it comes up, and then it can grow so many feet a day. I don't know. I don't think I'm embellishing that. I think that.
[00:06:59] Speaker A: No, you're not.
Five years. But I knew it was like, once it starts growing and it's. It's an indestructible material, you know, you see bamboo floors now.
[00:07:11] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:07:11] Speaker A: They're beautiful.
[00:07:12] Speaker B: Yeah. And so that all comes from pouring into itself before it goes out into the world. And so anyway, that. That fits pretty good there, I think.
[00:07:22] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:07:23] Speaker B: So anyway, if y'all know anything about bamboo, feel free to tell us what you know about it. But that's what we know, and hopefully we got some of that. I think the idea. We got the idea right for sure. Which is you got to spend a lot of time pouring into yourself before you can give that out to someone else.
So with that being said real quickly. So we talk a lot in our podcast about some of the things going on in the La Miller side, and that Sherry is an accountant over there. But I don't think we've ever really mentioned what my role is, which is a strange role in the La Miller side, I think, because people think I do accounting.
See? Yes, that.
Oh, no.
[00:08:15] Speaker A: Which button? It was more like this one, maybe.
[00:08:18] Speaker B: Hold on.
Maybe.
All right, now that's the button. Yes, People think I do accounting.
Ah, got it. But I don't. I'm our people person. And so when I was studying at Murray State, my.
Well, I took a lot of different paths of studying. I really should have just stayed a student. I think I just like to learn. But I studied psychology.
I started out in social work because I wanted to make change for children. And that probably came from just my own upbringing. And some of those things.
I studied philosophy, and Sherry and I were talking about that a little earlier, and sociology. I've always just been really, really interested in the human, which is why Collab Works focuses a lot on the human behind the business. And that's what I do over at the La Miller side. I work with our team and our people and just getting them to take care of themselves before trying to take care of other people. And that's what I want to do over at Collab Works, and that's what Sherry and I want to do through this podcast, too.
So, anyway, that was just a little tidbit about. About that. I. I just. I don't like to talk about myself. It's. I find that very strange, probably because I'm just always talking to someone else about them, and so it's hard for me to turn the N word and talk about myself. So, March, I found this.
Well, it was by James Allen, and the book As a Man Thinketh, that was written in 1903. And I thought it was a good thing to just think about and start pondering on as we begin to go into these March episodes.
And so it says, mind is the master power that molds and makes, and man is mind, and evermore he takes the tool of thought and shaping what he wills, brings forth a thousand joys and a thousand ills. He thinks in secret and it comes to pass. Environment is but his looking glass. So, Sherry, I shared that with you before we started the podcast.
What did you think of that?
[00:10:45] Speaker A: I did think a lot about how our. How our thoughts actually shape our reality.
And.
[00:10:57] Speaker B: That'S true.
[00:10:58] Speaker A: So, I mean, I guess I don't have much more to add to that because it's pretty deep. Yes, you did you put me on the spot. And I definitely thought, you know, how your. How your thoughts shape your reality and then how you end up with that. The environment is but a looking glass. And I mean, I. I believe that we are.
We are definitely spiritual beings that are granted the blessing of a human existence.
Thank you.
[00:11:31] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:11:31] Speaker A: Now let's go back to that. Thought shape our reality.
[00:11:34] Speaker B: Yeah, thoughts do shape our reality. And so one of the things I can think of just, you know, right off the top of my head, and everyone will be really, really familiar with and probably your parents, that, you know, whatever you're thinking about, whatever you're concentrating on, whether that's negative or whether that's positive, that's what you' drawing into your life. That's what you're going to get more of.
And I can remember just, well, from very early years, hearing people say, well, the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. And they used it in a different context. But the thought and the philosophy behind that is still the same. It's whatever you're thinking of, whatever you're concentrating on, whatever you know you're spending your energy on, you're drawing that energy to yourself. So if you're in a negative thought pattern, you're going to draw negativity. If you're in a positive thought pattern, you're going to draw positivity. And, you know, Sherry, I know you love when I say this, but you don't know what you know or you don't know what you don't know because you don't know.
And as simple as that is, and silly and redundant using words, it's so true. Like, if you think about it, you don't know what you don't know because you don't know. So if you don't know that you're doing these things, if you don't know that that negative headspace you're in is bringing you more negative outcomes, because that's where what you're concentrating on, then you don't know to flip it. You don't know to change that, to think a different way, to feel, find the silver linings. Again, a really simple thing, looking for the silver lining, but so powerful. And those are the things I really want to focus on in March is how we can change and flip those thought patterns into thought patterns that actually bring you outcomes that you want, rather than just getting frustrated and throwing your hands up and feeding into, you know, this. This pattern of feeling like nothing's. Nothing's turning out the way you want, you know, or maybe you have a lot of fears and you're basing that on, you know, you're basing your actions on fears and that. Like that fear of failure. Have you ever done that, Sherry? Oh, yeah, me too.
[00:14:04] Speaker A: Fear of failure can keep you from starting.
[00:14:06] Speaker B: Yes.
Wish I could remember that quote I just read that was about starting.
I'll bring it next time.
But yeah, fear of failure keeps you from even starting. And also fear of failure. I know in, in just the business world, sometimes the fear of failure can be because you're looking around and you're seeing other people do what you're trying to do. And then you just think, well, now I can't do it because, you know, Joe's already done it comparison and doing that comparison, and it shuts you down. And so our very first podcast of March on the 4th will be titled Stop Stopping. And we're going to be talking about fear of failure and how to overcome that so that you stop stopping. I'm seeing a pattern here. I think I like redundant words.
[00:15:07] Speaker A: I liked the Stop stopping. I thought, oh, that's a. I think we like the Stop Stopping.
[00:15:13] Speaker B: Good, good. I'm excited about that one because when I think back on, on just my life and things that I've done, I think, what if I hadn't stopped for whatever reason, whether that was because I was comparing myself to someone else, or maybe I just got fearful to fail or it wasn't going to work and so I'd rather just tear it down under my own will as it fail. And that's, that's really a terrible trait that I know that I have and sometimes it does make me stop. So I think Stop Stopping will be a good lesson for all of us.
On 3 11, we're going to talk about what is your self talk.
What about that one, Sherry?
[00:15:59] Speaker A: I like it. Self talk is, is a lot. We've been talking about how we talk to ourselves in the mornings. We had that little discuss before we started and how I start my day and how she starts her day. And she gave me another little tidbit that I'm gonna look at. You know, collab works. We even have a little library over here, some books that are some really good, helpful books. Take what you want. Leave the rest.
[00:16:22] Speaker B: Well, don't take it and keep it because I'm attached to them.
[00:16:24] Speaker A: Yeah, don't loan it because she's attached to it. Don't loan it without permission. If you're out there and you've borrowed that book of Andreas and have not returned it, please get it back. You should have finished by now.
[00:16:36] Speaker B: They're just, they're pieces. They're pieces of my foundation and I really am attached to them, but I will loan them to anyone. Now, I might make you sign a card saying that you've checked it out, like old time, old school, like from the library.
[00:16:50] Speaker A: Isn't that cool?
[00:16:51] Speaker B: But, yeah, I definitely will share them. And because you know what? I don't have any original thoughts.
[00:16:57] Speaker A: Thoughts.
[00:16:58] Speaker B: I just like to think I have original thoughts. But everything pretty much that I'm gonna think or that I'm gonna create or that I'm gonna do, someone else has already done that. True. And that was kind of a discussion that we had as we were priming, getting ready to record this episode was we study a lot of today's authors and self help and we listen to a lot of podcasts and really try to spend that time nurturing ourselves. And sometimes we hear these new things and we think, oh, wow, I've never thought of that. She's really good. Or he's really good. But what I was telling Sherry is I can go back in, you know, philosophy from 1800s and find those thought patterns. They might have changed it or tweaked it and, you know, we've modernized it, but it's, it's. I mean, you think of all the, I mean, trillions, however many people have lived on this earth, no one's really having anything original at this point. We're just molding it to fit a different time.
[00:18:02] Speaker A: True. So I do the same thing in the accounting world.
You know, it's. It's all basic. It is kind of the basic same. I think about, like, you're in tax planning. I don't know when it's not year end right now, but I feel like a broken record to clients a lot of times because of the. I have the same process, you know, that I go through. And maybe it sounds the same to them or sounds different to them, but to me it sounds the same. And, and you're right. It's. We all have.
It's not, it's not new. We just. You use new tools.
[00:18:35] Speaker B: Right.
[00:18:37] Speaker A: But it's the same theory.
[00:18:39] Speaker B: It is the same theory. And that's, you know, with these books that we're talking about, I read that I ingest it, I use it for nourishment, and I might put two or three of them. Maybe that's new. Maybe somebody hasn't put all that together yet because maybe they didn't have all the pieces. So I just find different pieces and put it together. And then I was gonna say the word regurgitate, but that's really kind of gross. But that's really what I do. I'm just, I'm just taking in the what already exists. I am molding it a different way and I'm regurgitating it into situations that it can be helpful.
So we'll talk about the. What is your self taught? What about three? 18?
[00:19:20] Speaker A: Sherry, energize me.
[00:19:22] Speaker B: Oh, goodness me. What do you think that one's gonna be?
[00:19:28] Speaker A: Well, I don't know.
[00:19:31] Speaker B: Plug you in like a battery.
[00:19:34] Speaker A: Plug me in, refill me, recharge me.
[00:19:36] Speaker B: Yeah. So we'll be talking about motivation.
A lot of people just say, you know, they'll say, I'm just not motivated today. I'm just, I, I didn't get anything done. I'm not motivated. Well, part of that comes from priming correctly in the mornings and starting your day.
Another piece is knowing you're in control of how you act and react to things that happen in your environment.
But another big piece that I've been studying and it's pretty simple and I think I probably already knew it, I just didn't really put it together in this way. But it is using your energy levels and equivalent.
I can't. What is that word?
[00:20:21] Speaker A: Equivalency.
[00:20:22] Speaker B: Thank you.
Well, it's not really equivalency, but. But likening that to motivation, how your energy levels are actually affecting.
Actually they're controlling your motivation.
So knowing. Are you a high energy person in the morning around noon, at 2, at 3, are you a night owl? And I thought this was really, really interesting to be so simple. But when I broke it down and I was reading the literature on it and how to figure out where your energy levels are. And there's other things too, like when you eat lunch, of course your energy level drops because one of the hardest things the body does is digest food. That's why you get tired. So there's things you can do as you're trying to figure out these energy levels. And I'm going to share with you how to figure out your energy levels.
[00:21:19] Speaker A: Oh, that's cool.
[00:21:20] Speaker B: Yeah. So it's going to be a week long thing that you have to do. It's really simple steps. And there's things that I'll caution you to not do when you're trying to figure out these energy levels so that you're not getting like these false positives or false negatives because of a variable that you're adding from your Environment. So anyway, we're going to energize you by just giving some really basic information that everyone knows and just hasn't put together this way. So I'm really excited about that one.
And then the last one, which will be March 25, is let me Go. And that's going to come with a challenge. What do you think about that one, Sherry?
[00:22:01] Speaker A: I like the Let Me.
[00:22:03] Speaker B: Oh, because you're reading that now. You're reading the book.
[00:22:07] Speaker A: I am. I'm. Well, let them.
[00:22:09] Speaker B: Let them.
[00:22:10] Speaker A: We're reading the book.
[00:22:10] Speaker B: Let Them by Mel Robbins.
[00:22:13] Speaker A: By Mel Robbins. Yes. Yes.
[00:22:14] Speaker B: One of our favorites.
[00:22:16] Speaker A: Yes. The Let Them and the Let Me theory. So, yes, it's been very good.
[00:22:20] Speaker B: Yeah.
[00:22:20] Speaker A: Everything very good. And I'm only on chapter two.
[00:22:22] Speaker B: Oh.
[00:22:23] Speaker A: Tax season makes things getting a little extra reading in sometimes.
[00:22:29] Speaker B: She's so good, though. I love. I love Mel Robbins, and I love to listen to her. I love her voice. I find it very soothing. And I love that she can really come at me almost like she's talking directly to me. And I'm gonna be like, oh, does she know this? You know, but she's. She's really good that way. Kind of like sitting in church sometimes and you think, oh, the pastor is speaking directly to me. God has told him I need this message. Sometimes I feel like Mel Robbins knows that about my life. So we're not actually talking about the Let Them theory in the Let Me Go episode, but it's similar. And we're going to be talking about how to just cut all these strings that bind us and going back to fear of failure. Cut it right. Don't look around and be thinking, well, you know, I'm just gonna fail because, you know, I've failed before. And just cutting all those strings and then cutting the strings of bad negative self talk and then cutting the strings that you think are just some innate motivation, but really it has to do with how you're energizing yourself. So it's gonna be really neat to pull all that together and then end with a challenge to people to just let me go, okay? Let me go.
So, that being said, I know Sherry keeps waiting for me to wrap it up, but these are some other things that are going to go along with that series that we're doing in March. And we're going to be talking about some people that had some really major failures and came back, and they're just some of the top in our world, really?
Oprah Winfrey. Sherry, did you know that she failed?
[00:24:28] Speaker A: I don't know. How she failed. But it seems like I knew she had a really hard time just getting started.
[00:24:35] Speaker B: Yeah. And then to come back and be so successful. Like how does one do that? You know, Walt Disney and the things they failed at are the things they do so great or the things he did. I mean, and Oprah does. I guess we should talk about it in the present past tense. But anyway, you guys get it. J.K. rowling. What about J.K. rowling?
And then Michael Jordan and Steve Jobs. And so we're going to be talking about their success stories because if they can all fail the way they did and then make it doing what they were trying to do. And Henry Ford, I didn't put that one in there. But Henry Ford is a really good example too of just failing and then just triumphing.
[00:25:21] Speaker A: And you know how many times Thomas Edison fail with a light bulb? Like a thousand.
[00:25:26] Speaker B: Oh yeah. No, I think it was more than that. I know that one of his quotes is I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that won't work.
[00:25:36] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:25:36] Speaker B: Yeah. So if you're out there and you're listening to us today and you know, maybe these are some of your struggles. I think that with any just a person being a human, anybody can feel that way.
Business. If you're trying to do a business, you can feel that way, but you can't. I think it's okay to feel that way, but you just cannot let it dictate or rule your life or what's going to happen. And you can't. You definitely can't let it beat you down. So we're going to give you some good food, some good information to help you get past those struggles so that you can be the successful person and business that you're meant to be.
[00:26:20] Speaker A: Right.
[00:26:20] Speaker B: Right, Sherry?
All right, that's what I have. What else? Do you have anything else to add today before we leave?
[00:26:27] Speaker A: I'm good. I'm glad I didn't have to do to you for button in.
[00:26:32] Speaker B: Oh, well, how long have we been in here?
[00:26:36] Speaker A: We've probably gone over time and we need to get back to it.
[00:26:40] Speaker B: All right, we do. So thanks for joining us today. We look forward to next week's episode and hope that you will jo us for. Stop. Stop stopping. Have a good day.
[00:26:51] Speaker A: Have a good day. Thank you.
[00:26:57] Speaker B: Every time I'm telling you what. I don't even know what that says.
[00:27:01] Speaker A: Leave the studio.
That one. Stay in the studio. Go back to leave the studio.
[00:27:07] Speaker B: Cuz you're supposed to be Turner offer.
[00:27:10] Speaker A: No kidding.
[00:27:11] Speaker B: I can't see it. I don't have my glasses on. Down here somewhere.
[00:27:16] Speaker A: There.
